In a recent interview with Oyinmomo TV, actress Ayo Mogaji, 60, shared her perspectives on marriage, motherhood, and the societal pressures faced by women. Drawing from her personal journey of becoming a mother at 40, Mogaji urged women who are unmarried but desire to experience motherhood to consider having children outside of traditional marriage.
“If you’re 35 or older and don’t have a husband, but there’s someone in your life who isn’t ready for marriage but wants a child, go ahead and have a child with him, even if he won’t take responsibility,” she advised. Mogaji emphasized the importance of prioritizing motherhood over societal expectations.
She also suggested that women consider adoption if they struggle to find a partner. Mogaji expressed concern about the stigma faced by women over 35 in the marriage market. “When a woman is looking for a husband at 35, they’ll say she’s too old and won’t be able to wash clothes for her mother-in-law or be controlled,” she noted. “They’ll advise the man to find a younger lady who will listen to him.”
Mogaji pointed out that even if a woman marries later in life, she may find herself aging alongside her children. “Some people at 45 or 50 are already grandmothers. When your peers are grandmothers, and you’re still searching for a husband, when will you find a husband and become a grandmother?”
Her advice is clear: if a woman finds a partner she likes and can have children with, she should seize the opportunity. “If you want a child and cannot find a man to impregnate you, then consider adoption,” she concluded.
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